A good support system is a privilege. It may be your family, friends or a strong partner by your side. At Vogue Values: Women of Excellence, presented by Tira, we asked our panellists what women should really be looking for in a partner. Not fairy-tale perfection, but the real things like trust, shared values and emotional security.
For some, it’s the person who will let you make mistakes and still offer a safe place to land. It’s the partner who learns a new language to read your work, the one who stays home with the children while you study, who stands by you when society doesn’t, because although ambition can exist in isolation, a little support goes a long way. So here’s what you should look for in a partner, according to Vogue‘s Women of Excellence.
Mira Rajput Kapoor: My pillar of strength has always been my husband. It was never even a conversation with him about what I can or can’t do. It was just, “If you want to do something, let’s do it.” Having a sparring partner is very important in a life partner. I don’t want to hear yes all the time. I want to hear somebody else’s point of view—whether it comes from experience, a different way of life or a different sense of logic. If I think from my mind and Shahid [Kapoor] thinks from his heart, that itself is a great conversation. But at the end of the day, the decision is mine to make.
To grow a family together and still hold on to your dreams and ambitions, you can only do that when you have a home and a partnership that supports both dreams. I believe both people in a partnership can achieve their dreams. In fact, it fuels the other one even more. If you have four burners, you don’t have to turn one off. You just reduce the flame and allow the gas to be on the other side.
Bhakti Modi: Ambition shows up very differently depending on who you share your life with. It’s not the big, defining moments but the everyday choices that make ambition sustainable. I live between Mumbai and Bengaluru, so for my partner and me, simple things like being home at the same time, adjusting our calendars, and doing that repeatedly without keeping score is what counts. I’ve been working at Tira for the last four years, and he has shown up in the small and big moments, and his doing that consistently has meant more to me than any words ever could.
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