In Anurag Kashyap’s Bandar, also recently released, Samar Mehra (Bobby Deol), a fading actor who hasn’t paid his house staff for months, hooks up with Gayatri (Sapna Pabbi), who loves her crystals and cards. During sex, Samar tells Gayatri, in vivid detail, how he can help her orgasm if he chokes her hard enough. Unfortunately, that’s the limit of his eloquence. When Gayatri begins to obsess over him, instead of sitting her down and telling her he’s not interested, he chooses to ignore her, lie about his whereabouts, and, initially, even promise to meet her soon. Eventually, he blocks her, and she, feeling jilted, files a false rape case.
Both films, to varying degrees, can be slotted into the increasingly popular ‘men-will-do-anything-but-go-to-therapy’ genre that films like Fight Club, Batman and Star Wars can be slotted into. All these stories prove that men’s inability to express and process what they feel in a slow, measured manner has terrible consequences for all involved. Bear’s unwillingness to communicate, which leads to Nikki being confined to a prison within her own body, matches the impunity that random men on Instagram exhibit when they slide into women’s DMs and demand nudes. On dating apps, the introductory text that nearly every woman receives from a man is a variation of: ‘Let’s not beat around the bush and get straight to the point.’ The point, of course, is brainless sex in a room that smells of fossilised cigarette stubs and underwear with more craters than the moon.
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