Here are some broadly common dreams that can suggest certain underlying issues and unresolved feelings.
Lingering love
Maybe you were dumped by someone you were deeply in love with—a devastating experience, not to mention a significant ego blow, that may leave you wondering whether you did something wrong or perhaps weren’t “good enough” for them. Dreaming about getting back together with your ex, or your ex apologising and saying they still love you, is a wish-fulfilment dream based on the subconscious desire to feel good about yourself again. Dreaming about breaking into your ex’s home might seem troubling, but really, it’s subconsciously related to the need to understand what happened and get inside their head and mindset. (In other words, don’t take it as a sign to act out IRL!)
Emotional or sexual dissatisfaction
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while and it’s become a bit too routine and comfortable, you may yearn for the passion of an earlier coupling—especially your first real love, which is imprinted on the psyche to represent love, desire, and passion. The following dreams may signify wanting to recapture those positive feelings in your waking life:
A) You have sex with them.
B) You get back together.
C) You search for them.
D) You care for children with them.
E) You see them out and about and are trying to get their attention.
F) You try to save them from some death or danger.
Dissatisfaction with current life circumstances
Dreams about exes may have nothing to do with them—or love, desire or sex—specifically. Sometimes they represent who you were at that prior point in your life. If you dream about getting back together or having sex with an ex, it could simply mean that you long for who you were or what your life was like when you were with them.
Resentment or unresolved feelings about the ex
Being cheated on or being in an abusive relationship can leave a deep imprint on one’s psyche and lead to an ex appearing in dreams. If you dream you are being yelled at or cheated on, you may be experiencing some degree of similar feeling in your real life, or you may still be upset with yourself for being in that earlier relationship. Dreaming about your ex leaving you, on the other hand, may not necessarily be about the trauma of a breakup but could be about broader issues of rejection stemming from childhood, nonromantic relationships or other abuse in one’s past.
Dreams about an ex’s new partner
“Your subconscious is trying to reason with you and let you know that your ex has moved on and has a new life,” suggests author and dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg: “They have other things going on and you need to do the same.” Harsh, but fair!
When should you be concerned?
In general, you shouldn’t worry about dreaming about an ex. But if the dreams are consistently unpleasant and disturbing, Dr. Barrett advises seeing a therapist. “It may be a negative experience you haven’t completely resolved—it may also be that some things in your current life are stirring that up. Think about what in your waking life may be triggering this, even if it’s not as extreme as what the dream is depicting.”
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