Dave Myers’ widow Lili has opened up about her ongoing grief, revealing the heartbreaking way she still finds herself arguing with the late Hairy Bikers star
Dave Myers’ widow Lili has opened up about the difficult reality of life without her husband, admitting she still finds herself having arguments with the late Hairy Bikers star despite trying to move forward.
The TV chef died in February 2024, aged 66, less than two years after being diagnosed with cancer. Since his death, Lili has spoken candidly about navigating life without her husband, whom she met in Romania in 2005 and with whom she shared an extraordinary relationship.
Now, having taken a significant step towards a new chapter, Lili has revealed how one particular emotion continues to catch her off guard.
Speaking to The Times, she explained that anger is often the easiest feeling to access when dealing with bereavement, admitting she has experienced it towards herself, the world and even Dave.
“I was angry at myself for not being able to save him. I was angry at him for leaving me. I was angry at everything,” she said.
She added: “You blame yourself for not doing things, for saying the wrong things. Why did you do this? Why didn’t you do that?”
Lili revealed she sometimes visits Dave’s resting place to express her frustrations, explaining: “I have moments when I’m still angry and I go to Dave’s resting place and I lie on the stone and have an argument with him.”
Asked what their latest disagreement was about, she revealed she was currently trying to secure a mortgage on her own.
“So the last time I went, I had a word with him about that,” she said with a laugh.
But while those feelings remain, Lili has also made a poignant decision as she looks towards the future.
On what would have been Dave’s 69th birthday, she put around 300 of his belongings up for auction, including his motorbike leathers, guitars and a silver-plated moustache brush. Some of the proceeds were donated to charity.
For Lili, the decision to part with some of his possessions represented much more than simply clearing space.
“I needed to make a step forward and that meant letting go of some of the objects that he collected,” she explained.
“It was a symbolic moment for me that mourning Dave is coming to an end and living with my love for Dave has started.”
The decision came as she continued her work supporting other people experiencing bereavement. Having received countless messages from grieving fans since Dave’s death, Lili has completed 20 grief counselling courses and is now pursuing a new path helping others.
She said: “I’ve found my place.”
Lili also confirmed this year’s Dave’s Day, which has seen thousands of bikers travel from London to Cumbria in his honour over the past three summers, would be the last.
“Dave has to rest now and I have to do the same in my head,” she said.
“People talk about healing. I don’t like that word because there is no healing, there’s only becoming. We become different people. We’ve lost our other half and we have to grow from that.”
Dave’s longtime friend and Hairy Bikers co-star Si King, who was with Lili when he died, has also spoken about his own anger at losing his friend.
Lili, meanwhile, says she has leaned on her close circle of friends and family while remaining in touch with King. Her son Sergiu also married in September, with a seat reserved for Dave at the top table in his memory.
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